In life we can become disillusioned due to unfulfilled dreams, missed opportunities, working on a job that is not the dream job you had hoped, and so on and so on. These life disappointments can often lead to depression and hopelessness. Life, as it unfolds, can sometimes  leave you in wonderment as to where did you go wrong  and a case of “would’ve, could’ve, and should’ves” comes right behind it.

Well, listen up. There is always a second chance at anything that you had your heart set on. You just have to look at it again on second sight. Take a step back and view it with a different mindset. Believe me, I have been there and know that it can be done. Let’s explore a couple of ways on how you can fall in love with yourself again on second sight.

1. Recover from letdowns and adversity. Yes, we must begin the healing process of coming to grips of where we are now and releasing  past letdowns and adversities. The word “recovery” simply means to return to a normal state of health, mind, and/or strength.  We need all of these to be in good health (notice I did not say perfect) in order to begin a new chapter in our lives. Look at past adversity as a lesson(s) learned for a better and brighter future. If you have to, have a funeral service for those “letdowns” and “adversities”. Give them a nice ceremonial burial (hard cry included). After your burial, vow to let those disappointments stay dead and vow never to resurrect them. It’s time to forgive, yourself and/or others, and move on.
2. Next, Embrace unfairness & unlock love. Hey who ever said life is fair? When we feel we have been treated unfairly, we close ourselves off from receiving and giving full love. We only allow it in partially. We even tend to not love ourselves because we allowed “it” to happen to us (whatever your “it” may be). Well, that is just a crutch that’s used to divert you from pressing onward. Embrace what has happened, that it happened and begin to unlock your heart again to receive and give love fully to others and most of all to yourself. This not only goes for relationships, but it also goes for anything that has you feeling down and depressed in any area of your life. When you begin to do this, you can only begin to go higher and higher.

Review these 2 steps to give you the beginning of something wonderful – YOU! After all, you deserve it. Baby steps is all it takes. 

Stay tuned for the next update as I continue this series on “Falling In Love With Yourself On Second Sight”.

I remain in excellence,

Nickquolette Barrett a/k/a Queen Of Excellence

Reblogged from :

What if I were to tell you there is one thing that drives all human actions?  Would you believe me? Think about it. Why do people smoke cigarettes when they know it will kill them? Why do people eat fast food when they know it will make them fat? Why do people spend $80,000 on a car when a $10,000 car gets you from point A to point B? Simple, EMOTIONS. Emotions drive every decision we make.  If something makes us feel good, we do more of it.  If something makes us feel bad, we do less of it. Most …

I read this blog and thought it was a great topic and the author, Mike Barratt, attacked it very well. Enjoy!

Just want to let you know that I am working on a series on how to fall in love with yourself on second sight after having setbacks and/or dreams unfulfilled. I am excited as it will be complete just in time for Valentines Day! 

Hey, I’ve been there and I know that sometimes we become disillusioned as we travel along life’s journey. But hold on as hope, encouragement, and motivation are on the way from your favorite motivational guru, me, the “Queen of Excellence”!

Also, go to my blog and sign up as a subscriber so you can get first notice of blogs, upcoming classes, webinars, seminars, and my soon to come e-book! Also, like my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/bexcellentinc. I will also highlight other great information and links from some of my favorite websites, videos, and blogs as a way to share the knowledge with all of you. How exciting it is to strive to live a life of excellence on a daily basis, even if there are some bumps along the way. Stay tuned and continue on your journey to rise to excellence!

Until next time – I remain in excellence!

Nickquolette Barrett

If you are waning on these or your specific “resolution”, why don’t you resolve to do something that will help you throughout your life and not just the beginning of a New Year. How about resolve that you will take on a positive attitude. Hmm…what could a positive attitude do for me? Well, I’m glad you asked!

A positive attitude can:

1. Give you power over situations that may seem defeating. Looking at a daunting situation with optimism allows you to move from being defeated to being a conqueror.

2. Give you the boost you need to go the extra mile in reaching any goal you set no matter what day of the year it is. It gives you the thought of “YES, I CAN!” When you have that feeling, you become unstoppable.

3. Alleviate stress. With a positive attitude, you approach life more calmly. Your feathers are not ruffled so easily. You look at the brighter side of things and tend to move freely through the situation. The benefit of having less stress is a longer and healthier life. 

4. Makes you an all around happy person. Who wouldn’t want to be that person or be around a person like that? Positivism attracts good to you – good people, good opportunities, good everything for that matter. That happiness gives you the “umph” to keep on keeping on.

5. Lead to success. It’s like a battery that’s powered up and moving you to a successful life, career, relationships, family, and anything else you can think of or even set your hands to. Ahhh, the sweet smell of success…..

So when you think that this year is going to be just another year of failed resolutions, resolve to have a positive attitude. Change your thinking and begin to think positive. If you incorporate positive thinking into your daily life and make that your sole “resolution”, watch how all of your goals, wants, and wishes begin to be fulfilled. You can bet your bottom dollar on that!

Until next time, the Queen has spoken.

I remain in excellence,

Nickquolette Barrett

P.S. To schedule your one-on-one “My Personal Excellence” consultation with me to get you on the road to living your life in excellence, give me a call. The first 15 minute consultation is FREE!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hzgzim5m7oU&feature=youtu.be

First clean house physically. Have any closets, desks, kitchens that can use a good cleaning out? Of course you do!! We all do. Take a day (or 2 or 3) to de-clutter and rid yourself of the chaos. Clutter slows down our progress and takes precious time away from things you could be enjoying. Having an organized space gives you a fresh perspective. It also greatly reduces stress. Some of you may have read my FB posts during the summer where I de-cluttered and organized spaces before school began. Boy am I glad I did! We were able to start the school year off right without the added stress of “mom, where is my…..”. So get going and plan your day(s) to physically “clean house”.

Finally, take some time to “clean house” mentally. Don’t dwell on what you did not accomplish this year.  Do away with all negative thoughts. Do away with self-doubt. Do away with the “I cant’s” and the wish “I could’ve” and the “I should’ve”. Replace them all with things that you actually did accomplish this year. Think positive thoughts. Boost your self-confidence. Fill your mind with a whole lot of “I can’s” and “I will’s”. A new year simply means another chance. 2012 is your year. Own it and go for it!

Until next time, the Queen has spoken.

I remain in excellence,
Nickquolette Barrett

Also, check out my other blog www.talkinwiththefirstlady.blogspot.com

Now what is a “Ta-da! “ list? My LinkedIn contact Tracy Ellis some time ago brought this concept to the world of “empowerment”. I grabbed hold of it fast because it was a concept that I never heard of but it made so much sense and inspired me to look at my accomplishments differently. We are always making lists of some kind – to do list, Christmas list, grocery list, etc., etc., etc. But why not create a list of things you have accomplished.  This list should nclude both big and small things as they both count.

Well my 2011 “Ta-da!” list goes like this:

1. De-cluttered and organized my spaces

2. Increased my speaking engagements by over 75%

3. Got a promotion doing something I love – teaching and training as a corporate instructor

4. Enhanced my blog

5. Stayed happily married another year (17 & counting)

Well, I have many more but I just wanted to give you an idea of what I mean.  Now, its your turn. Create your “ta-da” list. It will definitely make you feel better as you close out 2011. See, you are already smiling. Mission accomplished!

I remain in excellence,

Nickquolette Barrett

Also, check out my other blog www.talkinwiththefirstlady.blogspot.com

From the Queen Of Excellence

Let’s take a look at the example in the bible with the man by the pool who sat there for 38 long years waiting on someone to put him into the pool. Jesus asked him if he would like to get well but the man said “I can’t, sir for I have no one to put me into the pool when the water bubbles up. Someone else always gets there ahead of me.” whine…whine…whine… (can’t you just hear it). Then what did Jesus do? He commanded the man to stand up, pick up his mat, and walk! (John 5:7-8). Guess what? I, too like Jesus, am commanding you to stand up and stop sulking about your circumstances, pick yourself up, and walk into your destiny by owning your own development and getting where you want to be. Well, Ms. Queen of Excellence, how do I do that? Well, I’m glad you asked.

1. Decide where it is you want to go and/or be in your next career move and why. A lot of times we don’t answer the question “why” but it is very important to answer it so you can find out if the next career move is really right for you. Think of what you are passionate about as I truly believe this will lead you to a fulfilling career. Take a clean piece of paper and write it down. I always say, writing it down makes it real.
2. Do your research. Sometimes in doing your research you may uncover that this is either truly what you want to do or not. It may also lead you to other areas that you may not have even thought of. Google it, Bing it, and even better, find someone in that field that you can connect with, talk to, and get the real deal from someone who is already doing it.
3. Create a learning development plan with the results of your research. Write out practical steps that will help you learn all that you can about the specific career, job, business, or whatever it is. Think of skills you may need to develop and create a plan to obtain the necessary skills needed to be successful.
4. Be intentional on developing yourself. Don’t just gather the information from your research, make a plan, ant then sit on it. Do something with it. Do a little something everyday to develop the desired skills you need to be successful and competitive in whatever it is you have chosen to do. 
5. Own it. Yes, it is yours. By human nature, we take care of things that we own so be very mindful of taking care of your own development. No one can do it for you. You have to want to do it and continue to want to do it. Leaning should always be  continual. When you stop learning, you stop growing as a person.

Another point, I want to leave you with. While, I highly recommend you take full advantage of development classes and training offered by the company you currently work for, I strongly suggest you seek development outside of your companies culture. Find leadership conferences to attend. Sign up for seminars, workshops, and webinars and personal develppment. Take a community college course. Or better yet, hire a personal coach like me! This small investment into yourself can open up doors to greater opportunities that will in turn bring you great dividends. Don’t overlook the power of coaching as it is a growing field and serious individuals who have had them before, swear by this form of personal development.

Take another look at this article on the importance of having a personal coach and give me a call. 2012 is almost here and, together, we can get your game plan ready to tackle it with a vengeance! http://www.npr.org/template/text/s.php?sId=140849085&m=1.

Give me a call and see how I and the awesome tools I have developed for personal development can help you become all that you were meant to me.

Until next time, the Queen of Excellence has spoken.

I remain in excellence,
Nickquolette

This academy will be a high esteemed society preparing and presenting distinguished young ladies to a society that is calling on women leaders of tomorrow. It will maintain and promote excellence in every facet of their lives. The R.P.A. will be available for girls ages 6-18 (ages will be broken into groups).

In the Royal Princes Academy the Princesses will learn:

Etiquette/Manners

Public Speaking

Good Communication Skills

Goal Settting and Goal Accomplishing

Servitude

Healthy Living Inside and Out

and so much more all while having fun!

Stay tuned for more information for dates and times in the Beaumont, TX area!

Interested in bringing this academy to your town? Fill out my contact form under contact us to find out how you can start your own Chapter!

*To be one of the first to know when the first club begins here in Beaumont, TX, fill out the contact form on my contacts page. Thanks!

Desktop Publishing: Brochures, Business Cards, Catalogs, Letterhead, Postcards, Flyers, Thank You Cards, Power Point Presentations, Budget Creation, Fundraising Sheets, and much, much more! Just ask!

Internet Research: Search the internet for information, contact, data, price comparisons, reviews on items, etc. A concise easy to read report of my findings will be supplied.

Word Processing: Typing, editing, formatting of business correspondences, proofread and wordsmith documents for that professional edge, professional letter creation, reports, proposals, resumes.

General Administrative Needs: Appointment scheduling and reminders, make phone calls, scanning documents, faxing, create mailing lists, etc.

Check out my page http://wp.me/P1tYdL-x